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How to enjoy “the most wonderful time of the year”

Tis the season for celebrating… or so they say.

From getting enough Halloween candy to making it to midnight on New Year’s Eve, the next three months are some of the most demanding of the year. Sure, the most fun and festive too, but all that holiday bliss comes wrapped in some serious stress.

Your to-do list seems to grow a mile high overnight, outlining everything you need to should do. Soon, you feel like the star of a holiday movie trying to pull off a picture-perfect celebration on little sleep, no energy, and an empty bank account.

If that scenario sounds all too relatable, consider this your invitation to skip the stress, bypass the chaos, and kick the holiday expectations to the curb this year! It’s time to break free from these self-imposed holiday demands and embrace the season with open arms. 

Here are three positive mindsets that can help you let go of holiday expectations and rediscover the magic of the season.

1. I will do my best, and that will be enough.

If you find yourself falling to a comparison trap this season, take a step back and analyze your triggers. Was it the incredible holiday light display in your neighbor’s yard? Maybe the flawless dinner spread you saw on Instagram is leaving you second-guessing your Thanksgiving tableware? 

Whatever the cause, it’s essential to watch out for comparison traps during the holidays that can sap the joy from your festivities.

2. I will spend money wisely.

Gift-giving is a wonderful tradition, but it shouldn’t empty your wallet or max out your credit card. Instead of dwelling on luxury, think about thoughtful, sentimental gifts. A homemade craft or a meaningful card can mean more than any expensive gadget. Giving during the holiday season (or any time of year) can significantly benefit your mental health.

When you give, you shift the focus from your concerns to the well- being of others, which can create a sense of purpose and fulfillment. The act of giving releases endorphins, which can elevate your mood and reduce stress. It also strengthens feelings of empathy and connection, enhancing your overall emotional well-being. There are so many reasons to give that have little to do with how much you actually spend.

3. I will protect myself from burnout.

It’s the season of invitations galore, and FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) kicks in big time. But remember, it’s okay to say ‘no’ when you’re overwhelmed.

Prioritize self-care and quality time with loved ones. No one’s keeping score on your holiday party attendance record! Make a promise to yourself to avoid burnout this year by doing what you can, when you want to, and on your terms.

Remember that it’s perfectly fine to have moments of stress or sadness during the holiday season. It’s natural. Allow yourself to feel all the emotions that come your way, and remember that it’s okay to take a break and practice self-care when you need to.

We'll get through this together!

As you navigate the upcoming holiday season, remember that you don’t have to face challenges alone. Therapy is a valuable resource that can provide support, coping strategies, and a safe space to explore your thoughts and emotions during this potentially stressful time.

Our team is committed to your well-being, and we’re here for you wherever you are. Whether you’re celebrating at home or traveling, our online therapy services make accessing the help you need convenient.

Let this season be one of self-care, resilience, and personal growth. Reach out to us, and let’s work together to make your holidays a time of healing, growth, and joy.

Work Stress? Unlock Your Resilience Potential

Imagine resilience as a muscle – the more you work on it, the stronger it becomes. In a world and workforce filled with challenges and stress, resilience doesn’t just help you withstand difficulties; it helps you bounce back stronger than before!
With 83% of US workers feeling the weight of work-related stress and a quarter of them deeming their job the ultimate stressor, it’s time to equip ourselves with resilience and take charge of our mental health. Read on to learn how to flex those mental muscles with three practical ways to boost resilience at work.
Build Resiliency At Work

1. BE KIND TO YOURSELF

We all have that inner critic who loves pointing out our flaws and mistakes. But would you criticize and put down your best friend during tough times? Absolutely not! Self-compassion is the key to building resilience, so treat yourself with the kindness you’d show to your closest friend. This isn’t just some fluffy self-help mumbo-jumbo; it’s backed by science! Self- compassion reduces stress, helps you navigate tough situations gracefully, and fosters a positive outlook. Self-compassion is acknowledging that everyone makes errors and faces setbacks — part of being human.

Instead of dwelling on self-criticism, remind yourself that setbacks are growth opportunities. When you’re feeling overwhelmed, take short breaks throughout the day to recharge. Enjoy self-care activities like walking, enjoying your favorite snack, or practicing mindfulness.

2. CAPITALIZE ON THE POWER OF CONNECTIONS

Remember the last time you got stuck working on a high-priority project, juggling various tasks, and working long hours to meet a tight deadline? When facing this mountain of work, you felt immediate relief when you reached out to a coworker who offered a listening ear and sound advice. That’s the power of social support–a major resilience booster!

“Reach out to colleagues, friends, or family members who understand your work challenges,” said Ana Jimenez, PA-C. “Engage in open conversations with them, sharing your experiences and listening to theirs. Sometimes, knowing that others face similar situations can be incredibly reassuring.”

Additionally, participate in team-building activities or social events with your colleagues. These interactions foster a sense of camaraderie, enhancing workplace relationships and morale. Having a resilience tribe can provide emotional support, different perspectives, and valuable advice during tough times.

3. PRACTICE THE ART OF LETTING GO

We all had those “I-can’t-deal” moments at work, right? Stress is inevitable, especially in a fast-paced or mentally-taxing work environment. However, learning to manage stress is vital for building resilience. 

While we can’t eliminate all stressors, we can control how we respond. Start by identifying stressors within your control, then focus on what you can change, letting go of what’s beyond your influence. Embrace problem-solving strategies to tackle challenges step-by-step. If you find yourself overwhelmed, take a moment to breathe deeply and regain your composure.

Practice stress-reduction techniques like meditation, exercise, or engaging in hobbies you enjoy because holding onto stress only depletes your resilience reserves. And if it helps, picture stress as that old, outdated fashion trend from the ’80s – it’s time to bid it farewell! By letting go of unnecessary worry, you free up mental space to tackle issues effectively and better care for yourself.

BUILD RESILIENCE AND UNLOCK YOUR POTENTIAL

Remember, resilience isn’t necessarily an innate trait but rather a skill you can develop. By treating yourself with kindness, building a strong support system, and managing stress proactively, you can improve your ability to handle challenges at work and promote better overall mental health.

As you move forward, armed with these practical strategies to boost resilience, face each day confidently. Embrace difficulties as opportunities for personal growth and keep that resilience muscle strong. And if you ever need extra support on your journey to resilience, don’t hesitate to reach out to our mental health professionals at bonmente, who are here to guide you.

How To Navigate Holiday Stress & Family Conflict

The holidays are supposed to be a time of joy, love, and peace. But for many of us, the stressors of the holiday season get in the way of merry making. 

From buying gifts, attending holiday parties, and dealing with family conflicts, the holidays can be tough to get through unscathed. We don’t have the official handbook on navigating holiday stress (and family drama), but these tips from our team can help you manage holiday stress without losing your mind.

CREATE A BUDGET... AND STICK TO IT.

There may be many things we want to do and people we want to please around the holidays. But when it’s all said and done, our bank account doesn’t give a hoot about the holiday spirit. So how do we manage our financially-triggered holiday stress and stay within our budget?

“Before filling up your holiday calendar or shopping cart, sit down and create a budget you can stick to,” says Rachel Jumonville, PA-C, a bonmente provider. “Following a budget doesn’t mean you have to skimp on gifts. It might mean being mindful of spending, getting creative with gifts, or scaling back on some of your party plans.”

And if you’re feeling guilty about saying no to people or not buying a gift for your great-uncle Bob, don’t worry! Putting your needs first during the holiday season is okay, and the people who love you will understand. 

TAKE PLENTY OF MENTAL BREAKS & ME TIME.

One of the best ways to manage holiday stress is to take regular mental breaks. Step away from the holiday bustle for a few minutes here and there to clear your head. These little check-ins help you decompress and offload some of the chaotic energy that comes with the season, making you better equipped to handle stress when it comes. 

If you’re feeling especially stressed, take a quick walk or do some simple exercises to get your blood flowing. It’s amazing what a few jumping jacks can do… If the family conflict starts to heat up, give yourself permission to walk away and take a few deep breaths. 

SET REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS & BOUNDARIES.

The holidays are a time when family dynamics can come into sharp relief. If you dread spending time with certain family members or friends, set some expectations and boundaries. For instance, if you know that nosy Aunt Susie will pry into your love life or that Uncle Bob will have one drink too many and talk politics with anyone who will listen, mentally prepare yourself ahead of time. Then, communicate your needs and limits clearly and firmly.


This doesn’t mean you have to create a big drama – in fact, setting boundaries can help everyone enjoy the season with less of it. And that’s something everyone can be thankful for. Set realistic expectations to avoid feeling overwhelmed and disappointed. And by maintaining boundaries, you can protect your time, energy, and generosity before other people or triggers have a chance to take advantage of it.

REMEMBER, YOUR MENTAL HEALTH TEAM IS JUST A CLICK AWAY.

Telepsychiatry is a flexible and convenient option if holiday stress or family conflict is becoming too much to handle on your own. At bonmente, our team is experienced in helping people healthily manage their stressors and other mental health concerns that can be especially triggering this time of year. For this reason, we offer extended hours and Sunday appointments so that you can get help and support when you need it. We’re here for you.

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